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Tristan Taormino about female ejaculation
Tristan Taormino is the author of several sensationally sexy and informative books including
Down and Dirty Sex Secrets, Pucker Up: A Hands-on Guide to Ecstatic Sex, The Ultimate Guide to
Anal Sex for Women. From college campuses to sex toy boutiques she tours the country touting the
wonders of anal sex and the overall goodness of sex in all its frisky forms.
You can visit Tristan at her official website, www.PuckerUp.com.
Recently my friend Cooper looked quizzically at the bookshelf next to my bed. Pointing
to the bulky pink plastic package nestled between a row of space-age sex toys and a box
of baby wipes, she asked, "What are those for?"
Extra Large Underpads for the Protection of Bedding and Furniture. (You find them in
the drug store near the Depends.) I have only so many sets of sheets, so I need to be
prepared for a gusher. Although they are intended for use by incontinent people, those
in the know with bladder control keep 'em handy for girls who squirt--they make cleanup
so much easier after an evening with a female ejaculator.
Have you ever had your hand inside a girl, fucking her really well, and all of a sudden
she soaked the bed? Or maybe you discovered a larger-than-usual wet spot underneath you
after a hot round of sex. Finding a woman's G-spot--the tissue of glands and ducts around
the urethra called the urethral sponge--has become the hot sex act of the late '90s.
You're definitely hip if you can locate the spongy sucker (toward the front wall of
the vagina), then stimulate it and make her hum.
Many women find that if their lover puts pressure on the spot and presses and pulls just
right, they can ejaculate. There might be a drizzle or a shower or--don't underestimate
a high-pressure system--a torrential downpour. If you find the spot and make her ejaculate,
you're on the cutting edge of New Millennium Sex.
The 1982 publication of the explosive book The G Spot (Dell) put the spot and female
ejaculation on the map. Subsequent books, videos, workshops, and sex toys devoted to the
G-spot raised popular awareness about this erogenous zone. When I taught men "How To Drive
Your Woman Wild in Bed" at the Learning Annex last year, half the group knew where the G-spot
was and the other half heard about it and were dying to locate it. There are even porn
videos featuring squirting girls, and some starlets are known for their liquid abilities--
notably Sarah Jane Hamilton, Alisha Klass, and Jewel Valmont.
An innocent babydyke in college, I first heard of female ejaculation when Debi Sundahl came to
campus to show her instructional video How To Female Ejaculate (Fatale Video). I was mesmerized
by women jerking off, coming, and ejaculating onscreen. Yet another radical concept straight out
of San Francisco: we girls can shoot our loads just like the boys.
Years later, I saw it live when I ran into my friend Kim Airs (owner of Grand Opening! Sexuality
Boutique in Brookline, Massachusetts, and infamous girl shooter) in the bathroom at a sex party.
She had just finished having sex with someone, and she said she was coming all over the place.
"Wanna see?" she asked, and I eagerly nodded.
She whipped out her own absorbent pad, spread her pierced labia, cocked her hips forward, and
started shooting juice from her pussy. It was amazing to see her ejaculate so close-up, and she
looked like a fucking goddess doing it--beautiful, powerful, sexy.
The first time I ejaculated was at the hands of an expert shooter; she had already shown me how to
make her squirt and, in symbiotic lesbian fashion, she was gonna make me ejaculate. She was working
my G-spot with a definite mission and suddenly I got a feeling like I was going to pee.
"You're not going to pee," she reassured me. "Just let go." It was tough. I've been practicing for
years to hold it in for fear I would pee on lovers who weren't exactly the golden showers type. I let
go. Minutes later, I was coming. I had that climax feeling, then a warm wave running through my insides.
It just took over, and I went with it. When she took my hand and put it on the blanket underneath me, I
was shocked. I made a puddle that soaked her comforter. An enormous amount of liquid came out of my little
body.
So, is ejaculatory fluid the stuff of revolutions? Definitely. No more griping from men that women fake
it--here's that elusive "proof" beyond heavy breathing and squealing. And girls can do anything boys can
do better. I am hesitant to say it's radical simply because it's something men do. Yet, every woman I've
ever seen ejaculate looks strong, fierce, in control of her pleasure and her orgasm. Female ejaculation
represents yet another element in the endless ways women get off. Remember when clitoral stimulation first
came into popular consciousness? It opened a whole new world of pleasure for so many women for whom vaginal
penetration was nice but didn't drive them wild. G-spot stimulation and ejaculation can do the same thing.
Plenty of controversy and debate still surrounds female ejaculation. Some people believe that it just
doesn't happen--that women are urinating, not ejaculating. Where does the fluid come from? Ejaculate
comes out the urethra, as detailed in The Good Vibrations Guide: The G-Spot (Down There Press), and
opinions differ on whether the fluid originates in the bladder, in the urethral sponge, or a combination
of both. This liquid has been analyzed by only a few scientists in the lab who've extracted it from women
through a catheter, and by a whole lot of chicks in the bedroom who've sniffed the sheets post-romp.
Female ejaculatory fluid is considered to be sweeter and more manly than urine (it contains more glucose
or fructose than urine, and a higher concentration of the prostatic acid phosphatase--previously thought
to be only present in men's prostate gland secretions--than urine). Of course, there is so little research
on female ejaculation that a lot of the phenomenon is still a mystery; imagine if scientists said, "We don't
know exactly what's in semen, but it does seem to cause pregnancy." Researchers need to get on the ball
and devote some serious time and money to studying squirting girls.
I've had plenty of opportunities to do field research in this area since the woman who taught me how to
ejaculate is now my girlfriend. She's made me a squirtaholic, and I've gotten a little obsessed with how
many times I can make her squirt, how much I can make her squirt, and how far I can make her squirt (our
personal best: four feet, from middle of a hotel room bed to the TV screen on the dresser). I haven't gone
so far as to collect her ejaculate in a jar. Give me time--it would be in the name of science.
You can visit Tristan at www.puckerup.com.
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